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Tough Love

Tough Love

by Marcellino D’Ambrosio, Ph.D.

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“In polite conversation, never bring up politics or religion.”  That’s the advice I was given as a child.  And it’s good advice, too, if your main goal is to make sure everybody likes you.  Politics and religion are risky because they involve deeply held convictions, and if you happen to challenge these convictions, you get the same reaction that a dentist gets when his probe hits a nerve.

 

But politeness at any cost is not God’s style.  The reason for this is that God is love, and love is more concerned about the welfare of others than with one’s own image.  So if someone is on a seemingly pleasant canoe ride down a lazy river, love cares enough to warn the passengers that Niagra Falls is up ahead.  “But everyone is entitled to his or her own opinion.”  Opinions don’t change the fact that going over the falls in a canoe will kill you.

 

Religious and moral choices are like this.  They set one on a course that leads either to a safe harbor or over the falls.  Sex outside of marriage, intoxication with drugs and alcohol, honoring Jesus but rejecting the authority of His Church, all these choices have very unpleasant, even deadly, consequences.

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So God sends prophets (the Greek word means “spokesmen”) whose role includes warning people that they are headed over the falls.  You’d think people would be grateful for the heads up.  But often people respond to bad news by killing the messenger.

 

Why is this?  Because the idea that we are basically “good people” whom God ought to appreciate, and that our beliefs and lifestyle are at least as good as all others–these are comforting illusions.  When a prophet calls all this into question, we find this threatening and very uncomfortable.  If the prophet is right, this demands change, and change always means pain, and we don’t like pain.

 

Jeremiah and Jesus both are dealing with people who think that they are “good people.”  After all, they are God’s chosen people.  They offer sacrifices.  God is on their side.   So they respond to Jeremiah’s warnings by eliminating the source of pain.  They throw him into a muddy cistern and he narrowly escapes with his life.  Jesus in Lk 4 eludes the Nazarenes when they want to throw him over the hill, but ultimately gives his life for those who cry out “Crucify him!”

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So if this is how people are going to respond, why bother to rock the boat?  Why stick your neck out?  Because people have a right to the truth, whether they end up heeding the truth or not.  The prophet’s responsibility is to speak God’s word as clearly and convincingly as possible.  What people will do with that word is not under his control.  Mother Teresa was fond of saying that God does not require us to have success; he requires us to be faithful.

 

At first glance, Jeremiah did not have much “success.”  His listeners totally ignored him, the Babylonians destroyed Jerusalem, and Israel was taken into exile.  On Good Friday, it did not look like Jesus had been successful either.  But 300 years later the Romans who crucified him were now worshiping him, and the lives that had been forever changed were too numerous to count.

 

We who have been confirmed have been given a share in Christ’s prophetic anointing.  If our goal is to be everybody’s buddy, we are going to have a hard time being faithful.  The word that God commands us to share is sometimes comforting, sometimes disturbing.  We must get over our fear of offending people and love them enough to tell them the truth.  Of course, there is always the question of the right place and time.  But if no place is the right place and the right time never comes, we can be sure that we are allowing fear of other’s opinion to get in the way of love.  Love is not about being sentimental.  The love of God, spoken about in 1 Cor 13, is tough love.

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This article originally appeared in Our Sunday Visitor and is reprinted here with permission.

 

For other articles by Dr. Marcellino D'Ambrosio please visit the Archived Articles page to read and download articles written by Dr. Marcellino D'Ambrosio.

 

This article is featured in the Moraltiy & Ethics, Confirmation and the Virtues & Christian Character sections of The Crossroads Initiative Library.


 Taking Aim at the Tough Issues: Sex, Abortion, War and Capital Punishment

Taking Aim at the Tough Issues: Sex, War, Abortion, War and Capital PunishmentA lot of people skirt the difficult issues. In this hard hitting series of two talks, Marcellino D'Ambrosio takes dead aim at the most controversial of moral issues sharing the wisdom of the Catholic tradition in a way that makes eminent sense.

 

In the first talk entitled "Sex and the Theology of the Body," he lays down some basic principles that provide answers for all the tough sex questions including homosexual marriage and contraception.

 

In the second talk, "Matters of Life and Death," he shows why there is a great difference between such issues as abortion and euthanasia on the one hand and capital punishment and war on the other.

Often, discussions of these issues generate more heat than light. This series, appropriate for both adults and teens, is refreshingly different.

 

Taking Aim CD: $16.00               Taking Aim Audio Tape: $14.00

  

 


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